Q: My husband has been involved in an adulterous relationship with a divorcee. She’s now pregnant and so my husband has filed for divorce from me.
My husband’s friends attend our church, but they’re talking about “God’s blessing” on my husband and his girlfriend with a baby. I used to pray for my husband and the restoration of our marriage, but now I don’t know how to pray anymore. Satan is attacking my thoughts and emotions. Am I correct in thinking that these people who are willing to support my husband and his sin are listening to Satan’s lies?
I love my husband and feel sorry for him. However he has made it clear how much he loathes me and blames me for his unhappiness. How can people believe his lies about me and now think that their adultery is being blessed by true love and a gift from God in this baby? I feel like I’m the one being punished for my husband’s sinful choices.
Asked by: Cheryl, Missouri
A: Well Cheryl, what a story, what a situation, what a challenge.
Let me say a couple of things. First of all, isn’t it wonderful that at the judgment seat of Jesus Christ all of these things are going to be sorted out and reality is finally going to come to the surface? That’s why there is the judgment seat of Jesus Christ—for Christians to resolve such messy issues that seem to have no resolution here on Earth.
Now, there’s no doubt about it that your husband has sinned very grievously before the Lord and before everyone else, including you, of course, by having this adulterous relationship and pregnancy of this woman with his child.
What we need to do is to distinguish between the sin and the fact that God may use sin at times for His glory. Certainly all babies are gifts from God, and we need to keep that in mind. Remember, David committed adultery and ended up marrying Bathsheba—something that shouldn’t have happened. You know the story, and we need to remember that from that relationship, Solomon was born. And Solomon was a great king, despite his many sins as well. So God uses the things of this world for His glory.
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